Commonly Asked Questions
Browse through some of these commonly asked questions to learn more about Relational Discipleship (RD).
What is Relational Discipleship?
What is an RD Group?
What is the difference between a Grow Group and an RD Group?
Why should I join an RD Group?
What is the end goal for an RD group?
Where do I begin?
What are the expectations?
What is the time commitment?
Where and when do RD Groups meet?
How do I invite others into my RD Group?
What happens during an RD Group?
What curriculum will RD Groups use?
How should an RD Group approach multiplying?
How do you see RD taking root at Jersey?
Relational Discipleship (or RD for short) is equipping disciples who make disciples through intentional relationships, so we may present everyone mature in Christ.
An RD Group is made up of two to four people of the same gender who have covenanted together to fulfill the purpose of Relational Discipleship.
In biblical terms we see Jesus modeling our present day version of Grow Groups with His twelve disciples, and an RD Group as He pulls Peter, James and John even closer. Through intentional relationships, RD Groups are meant to complement the preaching of God’s Word on Sunday mornings and the teaching of His Word in community within our Grow Groups.
We are all commanded to make disciples. However, few people have ever been intentionally discipled or experienced the joy of discipling others as Jesus models in Scripture. We have found that by following Jesus’ example of having a few people who care enough about you to speak both grace and truth into your life, greater transformation takes place. As a result, relational discipleship lived out in RD Groups is a key step in our C2 Pathway of equipping people to fulfill the Great Commission.
Simply put, RD Groups provide an environment for maturity and multiplication. As people experience a time of accelerated spiritual growth through instruction, equipping and modeling they are prepared to multiply what they have experienced with others. As a result, RD Groups begin with the end in mind by setting predetermined date their group will conclude, so everyone involved can effectively prepare and prayerfully consider who they will invite into their next RD Group going forward.
Start with discovering where you are on the C2 Pathway. Are you attending a worship service regularly and offering all of your life to the Lord? Have you connected with a Grow Group and developed a consistent prayer life and time in God’s Word? How are you finding ways to serve others inside and outside the church? If so, then as you go, pray for wisdom in discipling your family and for the potential of joining an RD Group. Let us know about your desire to join an RD Group as openings are available.
In order to grow toward maturity in Christ you agree to commit yourself to expectations similar to those outlined in the Relational Discipleship sample covenant (see page 8). We recognize that every RD Group will look a little different; however, the Four Quadrants of RD (see page 6) describe a reproducible framework for consistency from group to group.
RD Groups meet weekly for approximately an hour and a half, over the course of 12-18 months, unless providentially hindered. There may also be times when you share life together, serve others or practice caring for people and connecting them to Christ outside your normal times with each other.
Some meet in homes, others meet in public spaces or at the church. When RD Groups meet is completely up to what works best for those involved; which could be an early morning, over lunch, during an evening or on the weekend.
Pray and be watchful for people of (F.A.I.T.H.) - Faithful, Available, Interested, Teachable, and Heart for God. As the Lord allows you to cross paths with other F.A.I.T.H. filled believers, request to meet, share what you see in them and ask if they are interested.
We call it the “Four Quadrants of RD”. The quadrants mirror the steps along our C2 Pathway that lead to fulfilling our mission. The quadrants of worship, grow, serve, and care & connect provide a framework that is helpful to keep in mind when describing what generally happens within the group. Specific productive actions within each area are included to help plan your time together (see page 7).
Instead of focusing on a variety of materials that are based on God’s Word, RD Groups will use a suggested Bible reading plan with other resources used at times to supplement areas of maturity that may be of particular interest to an individual or the group as a whole. For example, as a group follows their reading plan, an area of struggle or confusion may arise that calls for some additional study or focus.
It is important to keep multiplying in mind when prayerfully selecting people for your RD Group. Talk about multiplying from the very beginning as the group forms and set an end date for the group when you start. Most RD Groups will spend between 12 to 18 months together before multiplying to contribute beyond their initial group by starting a new RD Group.
Here are the five unifying strategies that we are practicing now and tracking for evaluation:
- Communicate Vision – RD is not a program, but a grass roots movement for making disciples - Constant Prayer – individually, for and with our RD Group, in small groups and corporately
- Committed Modeling – from the top down, leaders providing an example of following Christ - Customized Equipping – where is each person spiritually and what is their next step of faith - Contribute Beyond – expecting RD Group members will mature and multiply